That’s the title I’ve finally settled on.
And usually, I work with people about their work, either finding fulfilling work or healing from workplace toxicity.
Often, however, our time together has a softer focus, not quite as sharply zeroing in on career issues. And I love broadening the scope of our sessions.
In my free consultation calls with people who are exploring whether we’re a good fit to work together, I often ask them, “If we work together, how will you know that you’ve gotten what you came for? What will have changed in your life as a result of our work together?”
Answers vary, of course, but people’s responses tend to fall into a few categories:
I’ll know the direction I want to go in my career, and I’ll be heading there.
I’ll have a job that I love.
I’ll get past this slump with my career.
I’ll find the courage to leave this toxic workplace.
Sometimes, however, people say “I don’t know.”
Or “I have no idea – I just want to feel better” or “My wife/husband insisted I schedule this appointment.” These soft-focused goals can lead to remarkable shifts, and in all of my work, I notice how important it is to include people’s whole lives in our work. You can’t take a pie-wedged shape out of your circle of life, call it career, and isolate what’s troubling you. We’re whole people, and when we view ourselves in the context of our whole lives, insights emerge and change becomes more accessible.
So, if you’re here because you’re hoping to address parts of your life beyond your career (or in addition to your career), that’s great. I’ve thought about making my title Stubborn Generalist because I work with people on many areas of their lives.
Identity as a strong introvert
Career sabbaticals or intentional hiatuses
The parentified child
Navigating life with boomerang kids. I’m the proud parent of an adult who identifies as nonbinary, so I am a kindred spirit to others in that situation
All of us could dramatically improve our lives by acquiring three skills
Setting boundaries. Adopting self-compassion as our default approach to any struggle we encounter. And asking for help.
I’m glad you’re considering asking for help, and I’d love to support you as you make your way forward.
Some additional areas where I’ve developed expertise include:
Clean slate club
Whether you’ve wiped your slate clean with purpose or it’s been imposed upon you, there’s a huge invitation in the freshness of what’s in front of you.
One tangent after another
I’m married to someone who was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and I’ve worked with college students and adults in claiming ADHD as a strength.
grieving in sisterhood
I’ve experienced an advanced miscarriage, and it’s a grief that cannot be compared to other losses. It’s one that demands its own healing space.
F*ck It, I’m 50!
There’s liberation in turning 50, and – at the same time – it’s a milestone that ushers in unwelcome changes, including aging bodies. Let’s talk about all of it.
While I’m great at identifying the root cause of what’s going on
And equipping people with tools to support their desired changes, I’m not very strong when it comes to trauma recovery, diagnoses, medication management, and acute needs. If you’re seeking support in these areas, take a look at Psychology Today’s directory to find someone who is better trained to give you what you need and want.
There’s a difference between a want and a yearning.
Both are valid. Both are our own responsibility. But one comes from desire and one from the soul.
Let’s talk about your wants and your yearnings.