100 Days to Career Clarity

Day 3 of 100 Days to Career Clarity

One of the biggest realms of career assessment is skills: what are you good at?

The thing is, that’s a huge question. And it’s tough to find that sweet spot between self-deprecation and arrogance.

Instead of agonizing about where you fall on the ego spectrum, look to your data points, particularly your most recent ones (we’ll dig into your past later — right now, it’s about what’s current in your life).

Who are the 3 people you helped most recently? What did you do for them?

The scope of your response can be all over the map.

  • opening the door for the person at the post office when they were carrying a bunch of packages
  • driving 400 miles in two days to get someone to a disability hearing
  • listening with your heart.

 

You can include things you did at work, at home, at play – setting doesn’t matter here. It’s what you did that’s paramount.

And there’s another layer to this question. What’s your view of what you did?

  • what’s the value that you provided?
  • how is it part of a pattern for you?
  • how does it fit into the big picture of who are and your expression of that in the world?

 

This morning, I got my 16-year-old up for school at o'dark thirty. He's not a morning person. Neither am I. And alarm clocks don't work for him. Not even the ones that fly across the room. So I get him up. It helps him. I do it with kindness and positivity, even though I'm not at my best myself.
This morning, I got my 16-year-old up for school at o’dark thirty. He’s not a morning person. Neither am I. And alarm clocks don’t work for him. Not even the ones that fly across the room. So I get him up. It helps him. I do it with kindness and positivity, even though I’m not at my best myself.

2 thoughts on “Day 3 of 100 Days to Career Clarity

  1. This morning, I let my wife sleep in since she didn’t have to work this morning. I carried the morning routine (getting our son ready for school, and taking him there) myself. It worked out nicely because I had to work at a remote location today, so had to drive anyway instead of biking to work as I normally do. She told me it helped her a lot to sleep in. I like that my life is flexible enough to allow this.

    In creating a communication solution, I facilitated a technical contact between two peers. This helped establish me as a good facilitator and helped me finish my communication project quickly and efficiently. I like the feeling that I can connect people to get work done and solve problems, and I love being able to efficiently solve (or make progress on) multiple issues at one time.

    I answered a simple question for someone who just didn’t know who to turn to or where to look. Although I couldn’t solve the problem for him, I directed him to the right resource, and made sure he was able to make contact with that resource before I left him. Even though I’m not likely to hear how the problem was resolved, and probably won’t receive a thank-you, I feel confident and fulfilled knowing I helped in this small way. I do this many times a day with the same result.

  2. I help an elderly lady carry her suitcase up the stairs of the subway. I saw her struggle when I approached the staircase. She thanked me and said god bless you. This made me feel good about myself, not only because I knew I was making her day better but because her kind words made mine better.

    my mom just had knee surgery and can’t walk well. I help her out by managing her household, go grocery shopping etc. She is very grateful having me around.

    My grandparents had their big birthday parties last month (75 and 80). Even though my grandma enjoyed having her family and friends over, hosting two parties in two days stressed her out. I helped her as much as I could hosting these parties. It felt good seeing my grandma sit down and enjoy her party, knowing somebody else helped out with hosting duties.

    I am not sure how these examples fit into the big picture of who I am but I know helping others makes me feel good about myself – in that “clapping my own shoulder” kind of way. At the same time I feel these things are common courtesy and helping others is the obvious thing to do for everybody.

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